Special topics in being a human : a queer and tender guide to things I've learned the hard way about caring for people, including myself / S. Bear Bergman ; illustrated by Saul Freedman-Lawson.

"S. Bear Bergman's illustrated guide to practical advice for the modern age, filtered through a queer lens. As an author, educator, and public speaker, S. Bear Bergman has documented his experience as, among other things, a trans parent, with wit and aplomb. He also writes the advice column "Asking...

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Main Author: Bergman, S. Bear, 1974- (Author)
Other Authors: Freedman-Lawson, Saul (Illustrator)
Published: Vancouver : Arsenal Pulp Press, [2021]
Physical Description:271 pages : chiefly color illustrations ; 26 cm
Issued also in electronic format.
Format: Book
  • 1. How to make big decisions in a way that matches your values
  • 2. How to tell people things they very probably won't be happy to hear, at least at first
  • 3. How to keep firmly and everlastingly in mind that doing nothing isn't neutral
  • 4. How to give the kind of help that helping's all about (and not the kind we all can do without)
  • 5. How to avoid getting your upset all over other people when you feel out of control
  • 6. How to love someone with your words, actions, and priorities (in addition to your feelings, which I'm sure are very nice)
  • 7. How to apologize (properly, not like a Republican Congressman)
  • 8. How to have a disagreement, or even an argument, without having a fight
  • 9. How to be reasonably graceful when a relationship has ended, even if you feel wretched
  • 10. How to take criticism (and how to tell what's criticism and what's just a pointless insult)
  • 11. How to take a compliment sometimes (no one is reading your diary; we all struggle with this)
  • 12. How to get someone's new name and/or pronouns right, every time, sooner than you think
  • 13. How to increase a sense of safety for women and other people with marginalized genders whom you encounter in daily life
  • 14. How to be bad at things but do them anyway
  • 15. How to be a useful ally or co-resister to actual people whom you support
  • 16. How to keep going when you just want more than anything to stop, for G-d's sake
  • 17. How to be yourself.