Special topics in being a human : a queer and tender guide to things I've learned the hard way about caring for people, including myself / S. Bear Bergman ; illustrated by Saul Freedman-Lawson.
"S. Bear Bergman's illustrated guide to practical advice for the modern age, filtered through a queer lens. As an author, educator, and public speaker, S. Bear Bergman has documented his experience as, among other things, a trans parent, with wit and aplomb. He also writes the advice column "Asking...
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Vancouver :
Arsenal Pulp Press,
[2021]
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| Physical Description: | 271 pages : chiefly color illustrations ; 26 cm Issued also in electronic format. |
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Contents:
- 1. How to make big decisions in a way that matches your values
- 2. How to tell people things they very probably won't be happy to hear, at least at first
- 3. How to keep firmly and everlastingly in mind that doing nothing isn't neutral
- 4. How to give the kind of help that helping's all about (and not the kind we all can do without)
- 5. How to avoid getting your upset all over other people when you feel out of control
- 6. How to love someone with your words, actions, and priorities (in addition to your feelings, which I'm sure are very nice)
- 7. How to apologize (properly, not like a Republican Congressman)
- 8. How to have a disagreement, or even an argument, without having a fight
- 9. How to be reasonably graceful when a relationship has ended, even if you feel wretched
- 10. How to take criticism (and how to tell what's criticism and what's just a pointless insult)
- 11. How to take a compliment sometimes (no one is reading your diary; we all struggle with this)
- 12. How to get someone's new name and/or pronouns right, every time, sooner than you think
- 13. How to increase a sense of safety for women and other people with marginalized genders whom you encounter in daily life
- 14. How to be bad at things but do them anyway
- 15. How to be a useful ally or co-resister to actual people whom you support
- 16. How to keep going when you just want more than anything to stop, for G-d's sake
- 17. How to be yourself.